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The Unsung Hero

May 12, 2019

“How do you do it?” “I just don’t understand how you do it?” “How do you have time for all of it?” These are the questions I get from people when they find out that at any given point in the year, I’m coaching 3 teams at the same time. I’m going to tell you the little secret that I tell anyone that asks me that question: I don’t. The truth is, I couldn’t do any of it without the person who makes it all possible, my wife. Here’s the thing that you may not know about my wife: she was a phenomenal athlete in her own right and could easily coach herself. However, I’ll go ahead and say it. While she would be just as good as me at coaching, I wouldn’t come close to her as a mother/caregiver. I know every kid thinks their mother is the best, as they should, but with my kids it’s the truth. She’s the one who has the uniforms set out and a meal ready to go on those school nights when they play. She’s the one with the bat bag and cleats set out in the garage with their favorite drink to go with it. She’s the one that does their hair and the eye black. She’s the one that puts together the bows, ribbons, and socks for ALL the girls on my teams. She’s the one that takes pictures in the dugouts to make magnets and mementos for the teams. She’s the one that brings the other 5 kids to the ballpark after I leave with one. She’s the one that leaves notes on the table for the girls on those mornings where we leave before anyone else in the house is up, telling them good luck and how much she loves them and watching them play. She’s the one that will take care of the kitchen (after making the meal) so that the girls can go out back and get some pitching/hitting work with me. She watches the other kids while I’m gone for 2-4 hours at practices. When the games are over and I’m talking to the team, she’s the one packing up and loading the van. If I’m coaching one of my daughters, she’s watching our other 5 children. She’ll even leave me a potential lineup on the table alongside the notes to the kids (I love being married to an athlete by the way…).

She does all of this without a complaint. Maybe it’s because there was a time she didn’t think she was going to have kids. Personally, I think it’s because she loves being a mother more than anything else in the world and she loves her kids more than anything else in the world. She knows it’s an enormous responsibility and she takes it very seriously. When we had our first, she was a creative director and a very successful graphic designer. She made more money than I did, but she willingly gave up her career to be with her daughter and she hasn’t stopped sacrificing since. She’s in the background, working hard, planning hard, supporting, and sacrificing so everyone else gets to do what they do.

So to all you out there that ask me how I do it, now you know you have your answer. I can’t do anything without her and I wouldn’t want to. Thank you, Carly, for all you do for me and the kids. You’re the one that makes this family possible.

Happy Mother’s Day honey.


To all of you that follow this blog, I apologize for the quality of my writing. I’m not nearly as talented as she is. The real pro will be back to blogging soon.

One Comment leave one →
  1. Mary Jane permalink
    May 12, 2019 7:40 pm

    Awesome job there Brian! You did a great job giving your wife the best compliment a wife could ever want. You are both fantastic parents!

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